As a Man Ages
My 44th birthday was yesterday. I can no longer honestly say I’m in my “early forties.” Now I’m in my “mid-forties.”
This getting older stuff sneaks up on you. The other day I was thinking about a particular woman who is in her thirties, and I thought, “Yeah, she and I are in the same age group.” But are we? Thinking a little further, I realized with shock that I’m ten years older than people in their mid-thirties.
Interesting. When did that happen?
When I think of “younger people” or “younger women,” I think of people in their early twenties or so, but now, people in their early to mid-thirties are “younger” to me. Kinda funny.
I keep hearing from old people that they don’t “feel” any older. They feel just like they felt in their twenties, only now when they look in the mirror they see this old, wrinkly person that doesn’t match how they feel. I’m not that old…yet. Between the water consumption, exercise, vitamins, moisturizers, diet, and various other things, I look like I’m in my thirties still.
Regardless, I get what these people are saying. Not only do I feel like I’m in my twenties, I actually feel better than I did when I was in my twenties, since A) I’m much healthier physically, B) I have more money and better time management skills and habits, and C) I’m a much calmer and more chill person. Like many men in their twenties, when I was that young I was a little uptight, easily frustrated, and very outcome dependent. Men in their twenties tend to be like women in their thirties; everything stresses them out.
Moreover, because of TRT, when I say I feel younger, I’m speaking literally. I have the testosterone levels of an 18 year old man. Having the energy and testosterone of an 18 year-old while having the rationality and success of a 44 year-old feels very, very good. I highly recommend both.
Aging is different for men than it is for women. Once they cross age 21 or so, women are terrified of getting older. I couldn’t wait to turn 30 when I was younger. My 30th birthday couldn’t come fast enough. I was so tired of other people in the business world judging me because of my age. My 30th birthday was a very relieving experience. “Finally! I’m in my thirties!” It was awesome.
Men get better with age, and I’m speaking objectively. I don’t consider myself a good-looking man, but at age 44, I’m far better-looking than I was in my twenties or early thirties. Every once and a while I’ll see an old picture of myself back when I was a 29 year-old beta male, and it makes me want to puke. My hair, skin, fashion, and body language is all far better now than it was when I was younger. There’s no comparison.
True story. About a year or two ago, I was out on a first date with a woman in her early 20s. She was blonde and beautiful. She was already sitting at the coffee shop waiting for me, and as soon as I sat down at the table across for her, her eyes went wide and she said, and I quote, “Wow. You’re really good-looking.”
No woman ever said that to me when I was in my twenties.
Or thirties, for that matter.
Either this was because she thought I was good-looking or it was because she was surprised that a man my age would look as young as I do. Either way, I’ll take it.
You also make more money as you get older, have more money, and have less debt. Extremely so. Better looking and more money.
I’m telling you, aging is awesome when you’re a man.
That doesn’t mean all of aging is fun. Turning 39 was difficult for me. I was uncomfortable being so close to 40. “40 is middle aged! Oh no!” I stressed a little bit about my age when I was 38 and 39.
Strangely, turning 40 was just fine. A little fun even. Assuming you have your shit together, your forties is prime time as a man. Not in terms of fitness, but in terms of everything else. You’re making good money, your finances are stable, you know what you’re doing in business and in life, you’re not running around putting out fires all the time like you were when you were younger, you’re independent, you’re chill, but you’re still young enough to be decent looking and attractive (unless you’ve let yourself go because of a beta male lifestyle or a party/drugs lifestyle, neither of which apply to me).
Turning 50 will be very exciting. I can’t wait. I’ve already been thinking about what kind of birthday celebration I’ll have in six years when this happens. I’m seriously thinking about making it some kind of public event where 1000+ show up. And I’m an introvert!
People, men in particular, are looking better and younger in their fifties with every passing year. The great thing about advances in fitness, aging, and healthcare is that the longer you wait, the better things will be. If men in their fifties or sixties look decent now, in 20 years when I’m that age they’ll look even better, which means I’ll look even better at that age, only as a man with decades of experience, growth, and success behind me.
Again, if you mention turning 50 to a woman, she’ll actually shudder. Sometimes women will even joke about killing themselves before they get “that old.” If you’re a man, be glad you’re not a woman. Women rule the social world when they’re in their twenties, but as soon as they hit 30, every year afterwards is a new layer of aging nightmare. I feel sorry for them.
Even better, since I follow the Alpha Male 2.0 lifestyle, I get happier every year. At around age 51 or 52, some very massive goals I have will finally be completed. I can’t even imagine how happy I’ll be. Seriously, I can’t. I’m so happy now it’s hard to comprehend being noticeably happier on a daily basis.
So, it’s not just aging that’s awesome. It’s aging + health + achievement + improvement + Mission. The five combined equal increased happiness every year you get older. This is the opposite of a woman, who usually hates getting older, or the typical man, who plateaus somewhere between age 28-45, then gets older and fatter every year and doesn’t really accomplish much new past about age 40 or so.
Keep improving your financial life every year, and stay healthy. Have a Mission and goals and stick with them. You have a great life ahead of you…if you want it.