My 44th birthday was yesterday. I can no longer honestly say I’m in my “early forties.” Now I’m in my “mid-forties.”

This getting older stuff sneaks up on you. The other day I was thinking about a particular woman who is in her thirties, and I thought, “Yeah, she and I are in the same age group.” But are we? Thinking a little further, I realized with shock that I’m ten years older than people in their mid-thirties.

Interesting. When did that happen?

When I think of “younger people” or “younger women,” I think of people in their early twenties or so, but now, people in their early to mid-thirties are “younger” to me. Kinda funny.

I keep hearing from old people that they don’t “feel” any older. They feel just like they felt in their twenties, only now when they look in the mirror they see this old, wrinkly person that doesn’t match how they feel. I’m not that old…yet. Between the water consumption, exercise, vitamins, moisturizers, diet, and various other things, I look like I’m in my thirties still.

Regardless, I get what these people are saying. Not only do I feel like I’m in my twenties, I actually feel better than I did when I was in my twenties, since A) I’m much healthier physically, B) I have more money and better time management skills and habits, and C) I’m a much calmer and more chill person. Like many men in their twenties, when I was that young I was a little uptight, easily frustrated, and very outcome dependent. Men in their twenties tend to be like women in their thirties; everything stresses them out.

Moreover, because of TRT, when I say I feel younger, I’m speaking literally. I have the testosterone levels of an 18 year old man. Having the energy and testosterone of an 18 year-old while having the rationality and success of a 44 year-old feels very, very good. I highly recommend both.

Aging is different for men than it is for women. Once they cross age 21 or so, women are terrified of getting older. I couldn’t wait to turn 30 when I was younger. My 30th birthday couldn’t come fast enough. I was so tired of other people in the business world judging me because of my age. My 30th birthday was a very relieving experience. “Finally! I’m in my thirties!” It was awesome.

Men get better with age, and I’m speaking objectively. I don’t consider myself a good-looking man, but at age 44, I’m far better-looking than I was in my twenties or early thirties. Every once and a while I’ll see an old picture of myself back when I was a 29 year-old beta male, and it makes me want to puke. My hair, skin, fashion, and body language is all far better now than it was when I was younger. There’s no comparison.

True story. About a year or two ago, I was out on a first date with a woman in her early 20s. She was blonde and beautiful. She was already sitting at the coffee shop waiting for me, and as soon as I sat down at the table across for her, her eyes went wide and she said, and I quote, “Wow. You’re really good-looking.”

No woman ever said that to me when I was in my twenties.

Or thirties, for that matter.

Either this was because she thought I was good-looking or it was because she was surprised that a man my age would look as young as I do. Either way, I’ll take it.

You also make more money as you get older, have more money, and have less debt. Extremely so. Better looking and more money.

I’m telling you, aging is awesome when you’re a man.

That doesn’t mean all of aging is fun. Turning 39 was difficult for me. I was uncomfortable being so close to 40. “40 is middle aged! Oh no!” I stressed a little bit about my age when I was 38 and 39.

Strangely, turning 40 was just fine. A little fun even. Assuming you have your shit together, your forties is prime time as a man. Not in terms of fitness, but in terms of everything else. You’re making good money, your finances are stable, you know what you’re doing in business and in life, you’re not running around putting out fires all the time like you were when you were younger, you’re independent, you’re chill, but you’re still young enough to be decent looking and attractive (unless you’ve let yourself go because of a beta male lifestyle or a party/drugs lifestyle, neither of which apply to me).

Turning 50 will be very exciting. I can’t wait. I’ve already been thinking about what kind of birthday celebration I’ll have in six years when this happens. I’m seriously thinking about making it some kind of public event where 1000+ show up. And I’m an introvert!

People, men in particular, are looking better and younger in their fifties with every passing year. The great thing about advances in fitness, aging, and healthcare is that the longer you wait, the better things will be. If men in their fifties or sixties look decent now, in 20 years when I’m that age they’ll look even better, which means I’ll look even better at that age, only as a man with decades of experience, growth, and success behind me.

Again, if you mention turning 50 to a woman, she’ll actually shudder. Sometimes women will even joke about killing themselves before they get “that old.” If you’re a man, be glad you’re not a woman. Women rule the social world when they’re in their twenties, but as soon as they hit 30, every year afterwards is a new layer of aging nightmare. I feel sorry for them.

Even better, since I follow the Alpha Male 2.0 lifestyle, I get happier every year. At around age 51 or 52, some very massive goals I have will finally be completed. I can’t even imagine how happy I’ll be. Seriously, I can’t. I’m so happy now it’s hard to comprehend being noticeably happier on a daily basis.

So, it’s not just aging that’s awesome. It’s aging + health + achievement + improvement + Mission. The five combined equal increased happiness every year you get older. This is the opposite of a woman, who usually hates getting older, or the typical man, who plateaus somewhere between age 28-45, then gets older and fatter every year and doesn’t really accomplish much new past about age 40 or so.

Keep improving your financial life every year, and stay healthy. Have a Mission and goals and stick with them. You have a great life ahead of you…if you want it.

13 Comments on “As a Man Ages

  1. Happy bday to you! I’m normally over on your BD blog but we share similar political views as well.

    I totally agree that things are looking better as I’m getting older(38 currently). I was definitely more beta years back, I’m in the best shape of my life after starting a better weight lifting regimen and getting plenty of girls after ditching the old monogamous model. I’m a bit nervous about 40 but I think it’ll be good. I have the fortune of a baby face so I don’t look anywhere near my actual age. Being older but looking much younger is the 1-2 punch for getting the ladies.

    Thanks for all the great articles-i’ve connected more to your blogs than many other “manosphere” blogs. Hope the your 44th year brings you much happiness and success!

  2. have the fortune of a baby face so I don’t look anywhere near my actual age.

    Me too.

    It’s horrible when you’re in you’re 20s, but late 30s / 40s and even 50s it’s a godsend.

    Thanks for all the great articles-i’ve connected more to your blogs than many other “manosphere” blogs. Hope the your 44th year brings you much happiness and success!

    Thank you!

  3. Happy bday man!

    This is actually one of my favorite articles you’ve written. I’ve always kind of been afraid of getting older, but it’s so refreshing to hear that life just gets better and better for men as they get older – provided they’re adhering to an alpha 2.0 lifestyle.

    It feels like it’s so easy to take on the mindset of the rest of society that getting old sucks, but in just about every way possible my life just gets better each year (barring obvious short term setbacks like going out of business, fires, etc.).

    I’m curious actually, do you think that society’s obsession with your 20’s being the greatest part of your life is mostly due to female influence on society?

  4. do you think that society’s obsession with your 20’s being the greatest part of your life is mostly due to female influence on society?

    Not really. I think it’s the natural part of cultural progression from prosperity (hard work) to socialism (guilt).

    This youth obsession started with the Baby Boomers in the 60s and just keeps getting worse. I think it’s how most civilizations go.

  5. As they say, men age like wine and women age like milk. Its probably the only way nature balances all the advantages women get throughout their life. When women are young, even if they are average looking they tend to get everything from men and society on a silver platter. But men tend to turn the tables as they age, so long as they take care of themselves and increase their financial status.

    I absolutely love it.

  6. I’m 39 and have been having a bit of a problem accepting that 40 is just around the corner. But I’m sure it’ll be OK, this article gives me confidence. I too have a very young-looking face (been mistaken for 25/26 recently) and I’m still getting attention from VYW. Some of them get turned off when they discover my real age, but not all of them 😉

  7. I’m 39 and have been having a bit of a problem accepting that 40 is just around the corner.

    I had the same issue. But if your life is going well (money, women, health, etc) turning 40 won’t be any big deal. At least it wasn’t for me. The fear of 40 coming is much worse than actually turning 40. Turning 39 was much more difficult than turning 40. Turning 40 was fine.

  8. I was watching John Wick the other day and found that Keanu Reeves is 51! That guy still looks like he’s in his 30’s. I realize we’re talking about Hollywood here but I think he leads a pretty clean lifestyle which keeps him looking young. I never heard much about him being a party guy.

  9. Hey BD, Happy Belated Birthday, man! Hope success is always be with you.

    Btw I am just wondering, have you ever heard about the Sexual Market Value concept by Rollo Tomassi?
    He said that a Man’s SMV peaked at around age 38. I just want to know your opinion on this one. Do you agree with age 38 as Man’s peak SMV?

    In my opinion I think Man’s peak SMV is at around age 28 instead.
    I mean, let’s put into this perspective. Let’s say there’re 2 guy who’s trying to attract a 19 years old college hotties. One is 38 years old and the other is 28 years old.

    I don’t think the 38 years old guy can attract a 19 years hotties as easy as the 28 years old dude can, right?

    I really want to hear your opinion on this one. Thanks a lot BD

  10. Btw I am just wondering, have you ever heard about the Sexual Market Value concept by Rollo Tomassi?

    Of course. In detail.

    He said that a Man’s SMV peaked at around age 38. I just want to know your opinion on this one. Do you agree with age 38 as Man’s peak SMV?

    There is no exact age for this, and if anyone says they’re is it’s mostly a matter of onion.

    I have always thought that men’s physical appearance maxes out at age 37, so that’s just one year from Rollo’s 38. However physical attractiveness and SMV are two different things.

    A trim, fit 45 year-old guy who still has a full head of hair and a decently high income (which is more normal for men in their 40s) will have a higher SMV than the typical, average 35 year-old dude. So men’s SMV depends on many factors, whereas women’s SMV only has one factor: youthful appearance.

    I don’t think the 38 years old guy can attract a 19 years hotties as easy as the 28 years old dude can, right?

    Again, I was attracting 19 year-olds far, FAR easier at age 36 than I ever did in my 20s. Today at age 44 attracting much younger women is even easier than when I was 36. When I was 39 I even had many guys warn me, “Well, yeah, you can date younger women now, but wait until you’re in your 40s!!!” Well, I did, and 40s has been easier than 30s, not harder.

    I’m just one example of course, but I’ve spoken with many men who’ve experienced the same.

    Do I think a man’s peak SMV is 44 or 45? No. Like Rollo I tend to think it’s probably somewhere in his late 30s. But that’s only a guess.

  11. Hi there Caleb,

    I follow you on your different platforms since some time ago, and perhaps this is a good time to introduce myself by wishing you: Happy Birthday !!!

    This article hit something inside, as I hit 40 this summer, though I try my best to stay younger by eating clean, exercise and attitude. So far – except for a physical injury a couple years ago – each stage of my life has been more awesome than the previous one, so I’m thrilled to enter my early-forties and then my mid-forties as well.

    Cheers to your great outlook on life, let’s enjoy and live it to the max!

  12. Happy belated birthday Caleb

    I’m 32 and with very little SMV, mostly because I’m poor and live with my parents, even I’m fit, healthy, young looking, the fact of not owning a car and have your own place, destroy all your advances with hot women here in Venezuela.
    So yeah age means jackshit, is more important that you have put yourself together in all aspects of the alpha 2.0 lifestyle.

    I’m planning change my fate this year, thanks for helping me with your great advice in your blogs and the unchained man book.

    I gonna be commenting in your 45th birthday blogpost, but by then I gonna have my life put together, that gonna be my bithday’s gift to you shifu. Thanks again your book was the guidance I was looking for all those years

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